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A blog inspired by my Mom's brain · 1Y ago

Failure to launch

I think about this blog every day. I think about Mom every day. But thinking has not translated into action. For days and days, and weeks and weeks, and actually months, I have not written a...
A blog inspired by my Mom's brain · 1Y ago

Being there

I read obituaries with some regularity. Lots of people report that a loved one died “surrounded by family” and sometimes even close friends. I did not include that tidbit in Mom’s obit. But ...
A blog inspired by my Mom's brain · 1Y ago

Trying to explain grief

I now realize how devastating it is to lose a parent, no matter the circumstances and no matter how long one has had to prepare for the death. I’m surrounded by people who know how this feel...
A blog inspired by my Mom's brain · 1Y ago

The kindness of friends and strangers

Between Facebook and blog comments, emails, private messages, calls, memorial service visits, cards, gifts, Alzheimer’s Association donations, pops into my office for a check-in and a leisur...
A blog inspired by my Mom's brain · 1Y ago

Celebrating Bonnie

Laura, Jeff and I felt good about the service we planned for Mom. After it was over, people told us they wished they had known her. We considered that a big compliment. We kept it simple. Pa...
A blog inspired by my Mom's brain · 1Y ago

Obituary

A slightly shorter version of this will run in the Columbus Dispatch Thursday, Oct. 29. Laura, Jeff and I worked on this together. The photo is from Laura’s wedding in 1988. Beautiful, isn’t...
A blog inspired by my Mom's brain · 1Y ago

Gentle exit

Bonnie Caldwell June 6, 1937 – Oct. 27, 2015 “It’s the end of an era,” my brother said over the weekend. “She never wanted to leave a party,” my sister said. “We should not be surprised she’...
A blog inspired by my Mom's brain · 1Y ago

Stamina

At this moment, Mom is still breathing. But the breaths are “not life-sustaining,” according to the nurse who called this morning. I would have said the same things about her breaths yesterd...
A blog inspired by my Mom's brain · 1Y ago

Kids and music

I played canned classical music from my phone until Jeff arrived with an iPod loaded with Mom’s favorites: the Magic Flute, Der Rosenkavalier, Barber of Seville, Ravel piano concerto and Res...
A blog inspired by my Mom's brain · 1Y ago

Agitation

In my mind’s eye, Mom had a bad day Friday. She experienced more agitation than I have seen in quite awhile, since she became more withdrawn and immobile. I arrived just as an aide was chang...