how do normal people find friends?
(like the blog? Spread the word if you do and sign up to follow it on this site or on facebook. Have a question? E-mail and I'll answer, eventually...)Question: I used to make a lot of bad/unhealthy choices with the people I dated and the things I put in my body. Lately I've been a lot healthier but for some reason it has never been harder to make friends. I feel like some how my past is making healthy people want to stay away from me, and I don't feel comfortable around the kind of people I used to hang with and they don't seem comfortable around me. I'm sick of being lonely, please help.Answer: To ma

dealing with anxiety attacks
(Like the blog? Sign up to follow it on this site or on facebook. Have a question? E-mail me)Question: I get these anxiety attacks and I just can't stop thinking. Sometimes I can't sleep. Sometimes it even happens when I'm driving, once I had to pull over. I feel my heart racing and I feel like the whole world is closing in on me. I hate it. Still I don't want to take any medication, I don't want to feel like I am dependent on something. What can I do?Answer: Before we remove something we need to figure out what its function is. Instead of just eliminating this anxiety we need to fig

Sexpectations hurting relationship
(Like the blog? Sign up to follow it on this site or on facebook. Have a question? E-mail me)Question: I know my husband loves me but we don't make love, we have sex and often afterward I feel like I was used, like I'm just an object that he used to get off. I tried to explain it to him but he won't listen or maybe I can't find the right words. Am I just being too sensitive?Answer: If you feel it, then it is real and it needs to be dealt with. If you try to ignore this you will grow less and less enthusiastic for sex and the energy will go out of this part of your relationship. That would be a terrible loss when some

why keep living?
(Like the blog? Sign up to follow it on this site or on facebook. Have a question? E-mail me)Question: I have struggled with depression for awhile because I just don't see the point of life. I'm not suicidal, I have no plan to end my life, but I sure wouldn't mind if death came and found me. I don't really believe in God, and relationships just lead to pain, so what the hell is the point of all this? Answer: There is no point, or if there is, and I told you what it was you wouldn't believe me anyway so lets move forward as if life has no point.Since you are scrapping the God and afterlife th

Does a 3rd divorce mean I'm a failure
(If you like the blog please spread the word and sign up to follow it on this site or on facebook. If you would like a question answered or to set up a counseling appointment send me an e-mail) Question: I am currently separated from my husband and although we talk every day it looks like we are headed toward divorce. I feel like such a failure. I was married twice before but there was a long gap between my second marriage and this one and I never thought this would happen. I know the word that comes to mind when I hear someone has been divorced three times, LOSER. Is there any hope for me? Answer: The difference between winners