Dating a Dad

I got my first Mother’s Day cards last Wednesday night from Tim’s girls. They were working very hard on something in the kitchen and when I went in there they hid it from me. I had no idea what was going on and pretended not to care. I went and sat down for a quiet [...]Happy Mother’s Day is a post

I met someone recently who is dating a dad. She is doing things very differently than I am. At first, I was thinking all kinds of thoughts about how she shouldn’t be doing the things that she’s doing and I KNOW because I have read all these books. I have this blog and I have [...]What’s Right for Me

Something that has always frustrated me about being in this relationship is the geographical back and forth. Part of the “package deal” of being in a relationship with a man with kids, is that we end up spending the majority of our time together at his house. I live about 15 miles north of  Tim [...

About a month after I started spending time with Tim and his kids, his youngest daughter said to him, “Daddy, you should ask Alex to be your girlfriend.” “She is my girlfriend,” he replied. “She is?!” She was delighted. I’ve had a pretty easy time getting in on the good side with the girls. For [...

One of the most remarkable things has happened in the last month or so with my peace of mind regarding my relationship with Tim and his family. My attitude toward Tim’s ex has shifted. I learned that she doesn’t hate me and actually appreciates my presence in her daughters’ lives. You can read about

This is a true story. It was a Saturday night about two months after I had really started spending time with Tim and his girls. I was over at their house when his older daughter asked if I could sleep over and sleep in her bed and she would sleep in her sister’s room. Then [...]Spending the Night is

When I met Tim, life was good. I was happy. I had a fulfilling life of my own. I had friends I spent time with regularly. I had hobbies and activities that I participated in. I had a spiritual community I attended regularly. I had a pretty good balance. A year and a half later, [...]Get a Life is a

I have been experiencing a lot of fear lately. Tim and I have been talking about the future and I’ve been freaking out. We decided that I would move closer to his neighborhood so that I wouldn’t have to travel back and forth between houses so much. And so we could generally be together more. [...]No

I spent time with my boyfriend’s ex wife last weekend for the first time. I had met her a number of times when she was picking up the kids at Tim’s house or we were dropping off the kids at her house (or vice versa). Other than that I’ve avoided contact with her. But Tim’s [...]Dragon Lady is a post

We all enter relationships with expectations. Dating a single dad is no exception. What I have learned from some of the research I have done is that many of the problems that people end up having in blended families develop because the people involved have unrealistic expectations. These expectation