Remember Your Favorite Things
Do whatever makes you feel vibrant and alive, even if you need to do it alone. When you feel vibrant and alive, you are attractive to your partner and to others. Doing necessary activities often make you lose track of doing those important activities that contribute to your emotional and spiritual well-being. Making time for special things may seem selfish. It’s not. The long-term benefits are worth it. Your assignment, should you choose to accept it: Each of you make a list of twenty-five things you love to do. Then note how long it has been since you’ve done each of them. Discuss your lists with each other, and create a li

Discuss Important Concerns
Encourage your partner to get professional help if you think s/he needs it. Offer to go along, if that seems helpful. It’s easy to believe that a chronic problem is not that bad, because you have gotten used to it. You may be in a better position than your partner to know when help is needed. Tell your partner about your concerns, and ask whether they are shared. Your weekly assignment, should you choose to accept it: Make an agreement that you will do this with each other when necessary. If there is a problem that either of you thinks needs attention, talk about it now. This is an excerpt from

Discuss Important Concerns
Encourage your partner to get professional help if you think s/he needs it. Offer to go along, if that seems helpful. It’s easy to believe that a chronic problem is not that bad, because you have gotten used to it. You may be in a better position than your partner to know when help is needed. Tell your partner about your concerns, and ask whether they are shared. Your weekly assignment, should you choose to accept it: Make an agreement that you will do this with each other when necessary. If there is a problem that either of you thinks needs attention, talk about it now. This is an excerpt from

Practice Acts of Random Kindness
Do little things for each other, even if it’s not a special occasion. Bring home flowers for no reason. Give your spouse a gift certificate for a round of golf, a facial, or a special favor from you, just because. It is easy to fall into comfortable routines with each other. An unexpected gift or service, especially one that you know will delight your partner, says, I care! These small acts of kindness break the routine and bring you closer together. Your weekly assignment, should you choose to accept it: If you are uncertain about what would delight your partner, each of you list five to ten things you might do, and ask the other if you a

Practice Acts of Random Kindness
Do little things for each other, even if it’s not a special occasion. Bring home flowers for no reason. Give your spouse a gift certificate for a round of golf, a facial, or a special favor from you, just because. It is easy to fall into comfortable routines with each other. An unexpected gift or service, especially one that you know will delight your partner, says, I care! These small acts of kindness break the routine and bring you closer together. Your weekly assignment, should you choose to accept it: If you are uncertain about what would delight your partner, each of you list five to ten things you might do, and ask the other if you a