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This blog was started as an extension of my Therapy Ideas Website. It is for people who want to learn more about themselves, using a foundation of ideas from therapy along with books and movies from popular culture. After more than thirty years of working with people, I want to share how I think about therapy, values, life, and interactions.

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Relationship Realities · 2d ago

If They Loved Me, They Would Know

These are my least favorite words in the English language! In my office, I bump into it all too often. It is an ordinary belief that sets up enormous disappointment. I don’t understand why so many people are enchanted by this complete fabrication of what it means to be in a relationship. I see this

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Relationship Realities · 1W ago

Increasing the Range of Who We Are

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.” Anais Nin Therapy is NOT about trying to take something away from you. We are all lopsided in various ways. I’m a risk taker & not as good at being careful. Growing to have more range means improving my risk taking nature to include more poss

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Relationship Realities · 2W ago

Awkwardness & Doing things Badly to Begin with: Great Idea!

Mistakes are REALLY, REALLY, REALLY important! Fear has the power to stop you from making mistakes. I write about this often because I see more & more kids struggling to avoid mistakes & the larger world. The path to independence requires mistakes. “I won’t do it if I can’t do it right.” is somethin

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Relationship Realities · 3W ago

Mindfulness Helps You Rein in Your Emotions

“Mindfulness is the miracle by which we can call back our dispersed mind & restore it to wholeness so that we can live each minute of life.” Thich Nhat Hanh in The Miracle of Mindfulness I’ve just taken my third online course on the brain & it’s very clear that mindfulness has a huge impact.

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Relationship Realities · 1M ago

Perfectionism, Fear, Control, Doubt & Anxiety

There are many ways to trick yourself into believing you are managing your worries & fears. There are many ways to hide out in perfectionism: Everything will be ok if I do my best to look good & try hard to get everything right. I must avoid being uncomfortable & make sure I get what

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Relationship Realities · 1M ago

How to Get Help to Choose a Career? or What Do You Want to be When You Grow Up?

Wondering what career to invest yourself in? It’s hard to figure out what you might want to do for the rest of your life. It’s a very daunting task. Lots of people drown in the overwhelmingness of it. Kids in college struggle with whether or not they’ve made the right choice & wandering from major

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Relationship Realities · 1M ago

The Possibilities for Creativity

The more interesting people are the more likely they are to be open to all kinds of opportunities to be creative. The triggers for creativity are varied: Economic problems in Greece help people create ways to cope with new evolving bartering networks, with Putin to remain in power many Russians are

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Relationship Realities · 1M ago

Sharing your Kids with your Ex’s New Love

I’ve been through this process with many clients & it is not easy. First there is the jealousy that the new love may have something cool to offer your kids; like a swimming pool or they never seem to lose their temper. This is a very normal reaction because it’s hard to share your kids.

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Relationship Realities · 2M ago

Authenticity & the Soul

“A good definition of soul is the part of you that wants to belong to the world in the biggest way you can.” -David Whyte, poet “Well I want somebody to tell me, Answer if you can, I want somebody to tell me, Just what is THE SOUL OF A MAN ?” -lyrics by Eric

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Relationship Realities · 2M ago

Disappointments, Broken Dreams, Expectations & Avoiding Reality

There is a HUGE GAP between our expectations & reality. We are all experts at avoiding reality because it is often harsh. A lot of therapy is finding the courage to face reality & make the pain bearable. I’ve found facing reality to be life affirming. One instance might be; when someone is dying of

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