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The Declassified Adoptee Unlocking the mystery since 2009

English - Human Rights, Adoption, Feminism
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The Declassified Adoptee · 1d ago

A Letter to my Prospective Adoptive Mother

Dear Prospective Adoptive Mother,It's 1985.  My name is Christen but here they call me "Sarah."  I was three days old when I last saw my first mother and was placed here in foster care.  I have been here for almost five months.  I do not know why.  I have a foster mother.  I do not know her name.Rea
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The Declassified Adoptee · 6d ago

Another "The Avengers" Interpretation: Your not a "Real" Member of your Family

I've addressed the "get over it, it may be offensive but who cares" line of thinking in a previous post.  I want to take a moment to address the second line of thinking in defense of The Avengers "he's adopted" line that people don't think is offensive to adoptees.  I found this in a forum where my
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The Declassified Adoptee · 1W ago

TLC's "Birthmoms" and the "Oh Well, She Chose it" Mentality of Adoption Ethics

TLC producers and camera persons stand by and film while expectant parent, Kandice,calls the police to demand her ID so she can order Tequila from a restaurant.TLC just aired its new "reality" series "Birth Moms," a show I won't be watching.  The show aims to "follow the lives of three pregnant wome
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The Declassified Adoptee · 1W ago

What will the Adoption Community do With our Memories?

(Sensitivity warning for individuals who have experienced loss or who are caregivers to older-adult loved ones)."The horses are beautiful, aren't they?"  I tried to see the majestic creatures my client must have seen running by me in a flowing field of wild grasses but there was simply nothing there
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The Declassified Adoptee · 1W ago

Things That Make me Silly Happy (Besides Being Done Painting the Ceiling)

I finally, finally, finally repainted my kitchen and mudroom from my-kids-flung-spaghetti-here-blue to a scrubbable apple green.  I even got on a ladder and painted the ceilings a lighter shade of green (it looks white in the pictures).  I moved around some decor and also switched the living room an
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The Declassified Adoptee · 1W ago

Why I Found "The Avengers" Line Offensive

I wasn't going to blog on The Avenger's comment "he's adopted" because I felt like Triona did an awesome job and would rather just link to her.  However, after seeing this issue covered on MSNBC where I also read the countless comments in response, some rather overblown and cruel to those who dislik
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The Declassified Adoptee · 2W ago

Nature vs. Nurture & What my Connection to my Mothers Looks Like

Yes I drew it.  Yes, this is what it looks like in my brain. No, I didn't forget to draw it in a triangle.The topic of nature, nurture, and "which family do you like best" came up twice for me this week and ironically, nearly at the same time.  On the interwebs, I somehow ended up engaged in a brief
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The Declassified Adoptee · 2W ago

Celebrating Holidays as an Adoptee: What to Buy and Why?

Someone suggested to me in an email they would like to hear about how I go about choosing gifts for my mothers on holidays such as Mother's Day.  Is it hard?  Do I get each mother the same thing?  What do I do about finding cards?  How do you budget when you have lots of family members to buy things
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The Declassified Adoptee · 2W ago

Open Adoption Roundtable #38: A Letter to my Foster Mother

Giving birth to my firstborn opened up a floodgate of emotions for me that I never knew I had or never consciously allowed to surface, rather.  Had she held me?  Did she feel a bond with me like I felt for my baby?  Does she think about me?  Holding the first biological relative I had ever known in
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The Declassified Adoptee · 2W ago

Just When I Thought I was Brilliant, it was my Dad who Saved the Day

Father-daughter dance.It feels like my birthday I thought to myself a few weeks ago.  I had pictures of azaleas and daffodils pass through my memory.  I realized then that I felt that way because it was almost my birthday--an event entirely possible for me to forget is coming up because paying atten
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