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To Love, Honor and Vacuum · 12h ago

10 Tips on Getting Used to Sex Once You’re Married!

How do you adjust to having sex once you’re married–especially if you decided to wait until marriage to have sex? I know I didn’t make that transition well! And so when a newlywed blogger asked to write this post for me, I thought it would be awesome...
To Love, Honor and Vacuum · 1d ago

Reader Question: What Do I Do If My Boyfriend Won’t Propose?

What do you do if your boyfriend just doesn’t seem that interested in getting married? Last week was a big one–I spent the week tackling the idea that every man will lust, and I’m excited to...
To Love, Honor and Vacuum · 4d ago

Why “Don’t Be a Stumbling Block” is A Really Bad Modesty Message

How many times have you heard calls for women to dress modestly in terms of “you don’t want to be a stumbling block”? Phew. This has been a tiring week on the blog–and I knew it would be. I’ve been talking about how the idea that all men will lust is...
To Love, Honor and Vacuum · 5d ago

How Can We Talk about Men’s Sexual Needs in a Healthy Way?

What do you do if you’re a husband, and your wife really isn’t interested in sex? How do you get her to understand men’s sexual needs? This has been a really heavy week on the blog. I’ve been attacking the message that we often hear in certain conser...
To Love, Honor and Vacuum · 6d ago

12 Ways to Help Christian Men Overcome Lust

For twenty years now Christians have been inundated with news about “every man’s battle” and how every man struggles with lust. But what if our approach is part of the problem? People live up to their expectations. If you constantly tell men, “all me...
To Love, Honor and Vacuum · 1w ago

Why Every Man’s Battle Backfires: We Should Expect Men Not to Lust

Women, you are not living in a dream world if you want to be married to a guy who doesn’t lust. It is perfectly reasonable, and utterly biblical, to expect that your husband will not lust after other women–or at least will actively fight a battle wit...
To Love, Honor and Vacuum · 1W ago

Men are Visual: But Does That Mean That All Men Lust?

Does the fact that “men are visually stimulated” mean that all men will struggle with lust? That’s certainly the way it’s commonly presented. We hear things like “Every man’s battle” talking about how the biggest struggle all men face is battling lus...
To Love, Honor and Vacuum · 1W ago

To My Fathers: The Ones I Chose, and The Ones Who Stepped In

When I think of Dad, I think of belly laughs, and smiles, and choked back tears. I think of a proud grandfather, a fiercely loyal parent, a family man. I think of a man who loves hockey but ...
To Love, Honor and Vacuum · 1W ago

How Do You Stop Siblings from Fighting?

The hardest years of mothering to me were those when my girls were 8-11–because of the girls constantly fighting. Sure, other years left me with far less sleep. Other years gave me less time to myself. But the years when I questioned myself as a mom,...
To Love, Honor and Vacuum · 1W ago

Wifey Wednesday: Are Daddy Issues Hurting Your Marriage?

Do you project onto your daddy issues onto your husband? It’s Wednesday, the day when we always talk marriage! And with Father’s Day coming up this week, I thought I’d look at how those of us with father issues can try to keep those issues out of our...